Unlike other vendors in a wedding scene, wedding planner spends more time with the couple from early planning stage up to the big day. We have intense communication, exchanging numerous email, whatsapp messages and video calls.
The gentlemen I've seen marrying their brides are the living testimony of love that transcended into actions and caring. I understand fully why those brides couldn't resist and said yes I do!
On one occasion - we were in the midst of meeting with the decorator at the hotel lobby where the couple stay. It was wet rainy season in December, thus prone to mosquito attack. The groom who was so concerned about his fiance "well-being" handy with mosquito repellent on his hand. Without being asked he rubbed the repellent to his fiance exposed hands and legs. I was thinking what a caring boy friend he was. But then he offered the repellent to me and the florist too! (of course he was not offering help to rub the repellent for me :) I was simply impressed by his caring gesture.
The other occasion the other groom, on our way to a lunch break (after visiting some short listed venues) at a beachfront restaurant in Seminyak, instinctively the groom would walk at the outer right hand side protecting us from the traffic. During lunch he was constantly offering help to pass around the condiment or ordering more drink and food.
Have I ever encountered a groom who isn't belong to the gentleman category? Yes, once in a blue moon I would say. An interesting story to tell you all, this happened back in 2017. I didn't know the real reason was, but It seemed to me that the groom had had very little interest towards the wedding itself. From the very beginning up until the big day. We even had to "chase" him to shower and get dress as the ceremony time was due in less than an hour! Boy - I couldn't help thinking he was forced into the marriage in the first place ...
Note: The tradition of "Ladies First" was originally a case of men being nice to women by voluntarily giving up their right to precedence. This would only be the case in safe situations, as it wouldn't be nice to send a woman ahead into danger. With repeated use, "Ladies First" has become a courtesy rather than a nicety, and it is now considered rude for a man to precede a woman in a formal situation.
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